Has it ever happened to you that you walk into the house and you are bombarded with questions? Questions, the answers to which, even though you were away for 3 hours, you should have had. Why didn’t Baby A eat lunch today? A Junior is cranky why? Where did the maid keep the basket that was received from a mysterious someone 20 minutes ago?

Where, why and whats start flying at you as soon as you enter through the door. In an instant you go into Sanjaya from Mahabharata mode and start pouring out answers.

Somehow, being a wife automatically comes with these super powers and no matter how much you know or try to research before you make the entry into the battle field, the husband will try his level best to find a point that you don’t have an explanation to and BAM!! threat to male supremacy evaded.

While we are driving to a friend’s house, baby A begins firing me with his list of queries, what is the name of the old man, who is selling fruits? Why did that boy cross the road? Where is he going? Why didn’t you give birth to a baby horse instead of A junior? I am usually good with answers to his curious mind but some of these questions are beyond even science, and the failure to answer leaves me with a sullen baby A.

“You know everything, you are just not telling me.”
Hmm..

I am facing this at work as well. The Aurangabad Marathon that was conceptualised as instantly as a bug bite, a few months ago, is now in its final phase. Route recce, on-ground production, runner supplies, entertainment and Mr. K’s favourite topic, finance, all working hand in hand. When I enter the conference room full of experienced company heads, my defense mode is activated. The Miss Know-It-All must have an answer.

Sometimes, before the team can start asking me questions I use the supremacy in this situation to fire my set of questions, haha who’s laughing now.

I need to continuously remind myself of a statement made by Mr. Kumar Mangalam Birla in an interview that it was impossible for him to be an expert in every area of work he was doing and that is why the team is supposed to be better than the boss. So, there is no shame in not knowing an answer to a particular question. In my mantra, the mark of a successful entrepreneur would be to be confident enough to ask.

I am going ahead and applying this theory to domestic issues as well. Why baby A didn’t eat today, I will just check with him and get back to you. Does that make me a bad mommy, well, I always cross check with the paediatrician on my quarterly visits, well its cheaper than a psychiatrist.

Ruchira Darda

I am Ruchira Darda, a relationship coach, parenting expert, author, and entrepreneur with over 16 years of experience. Based in Mumbai, I work extensively in the areas of mindful living and emotional wellness. I am a TEDx speaker and focus on personality identification to help individuals and families build stronger, healthier relationships. I also lead and actively support initiatives such as the Lokmat MahaMarathon.